Sigmund Freud barely needs an introduction. He is none other than the father of psychoanalysis; the man who gave the world the âegoâ and âIdâ; the famous Austrian doctor who discovered the subconsciousness and who persuaded millions to blame (all) their problems on their mothers. But Freud also made other âdiscoveriesâ which are not as often spoken about (for good reasons…) today, but the effects of which resonated through bedrooms and medical textbooks worldwide for almost a century. And those are related to Freudâs theories about female sexuality.
Freud never held females in too high a regard and didnât make much of a secret of it. The idea of âpenis envyâ clearly could be spawned only in the mind of a man who didnât think women could aspire to much at all. His personal relationships with women were complex to say the least â having an affair with your own sister-in-law isnât the best way to secure a happy marriage and blissful family life. It is perhaps no surprise then that his writings about women are full of sweeping statements on their (sexual) inferiority with little or no factual support. The surprise is that people still took his word for it at least half a century later.
Freudâs initial idea was that as women matured — emotionally and sexually — their erotic zones were âtransferredâ from the clitoris to the vagina. This âreallocationâ of the center of sexual pleasure was, according to Freud, crucial for reproduction and the proper development of a heterosexual identity. Freudâs disciples went somewhat further and began interpreting the failure to achieve vaginal orgasm as a sign of frigidity and not solely sexual immaturity. In the quaintly titled âThe sexually adequate female,â Frank S. Caprio, a contemporary follower of Freudâs ideas elaborated that â…whenever a woman is incapable of achieving an orgasm via coitus, provided the husband is an adequate partner, and prefers clitoral stimulation to any other form of sexual activity, she can be regarded as suffering from frigidity and requires psychiatric assistance.â (The Sexually Adequate Female, p.64.). This gem of a book was first published in 1953 — the world was a decade away from the equal pay act and Betty Friedanâs seminal âFeminine mystiqueâ — and yet here was Dr. Caprio diagnosing mental disease in women who liked making use of the only known organ whose sole biological function is to give pleasure!
Women who desired having their clitoris stimulated were thought to behave like men, because they preferred their âexternalâ organ pleasured rather than indulging in the âfeminine passivityâ of accepting a phallus into their vagina. Consequently, it was thought that as a result of their obvious lack of feminine behaviors they were likely to be awful mothers and would probably fall victim to mental disease and general âsocial disintegrationâ (talk about jumping to conclusions). A treatise on sexual issues from 1937 strongly recommends (in the spirit of disaster prevention) that if a woman is unable to reach coital orgasm, sitting astride the man âis certainly better than titillation of the clitorisâ.
Today we know that there is absolutely no evidence for Freudâs idea of a transfer in female erotic zones — it seems he made the whole thing up sitting in his comfy Vienna office. Whatâs more, in light of current anatomical and sexological knowledge the whole idea seems pretty absurd (although, Iâm sorry to report, the myth of a âbetterâ vaginal orgasm is still alive and well in a lot of corners around the Internet and many peoplesâ minds).
The notion of a clitoral orgasm being different from a vaginal one was only really possible in a world where there was very little knowledge about female anatomy (Freud never really cared to learn any himself). What we have come to think of as the âclitorisâ is quite literally only the tip of the organ, which in fact can be up to 5 inches long. The internal portions of the clitoris surround the vaginal opening and canal and have more sensory endings than the relatively poorly innervated vaginal walls. Plainly speaking, âvaginal orgasmsâ are commonly the result of either external indirect stimulation of the clitoris (perhaps the source from the partiality of many 19th century women towards âriding astrideâ their husbands was that this position results in stimulating the clitoris without the use of hands); or internally â friction against the vaginal walls excites the nerve endings in the interior parts of the clitoris and…kazaaam! Vaginal orgasm.
However, there is much more to the (female) orgasm than just the vagina or the clitoris. Medically speaking, the orgasm is an autonomic physiologic response to various kinds of stimulation which is often (but not always) experienced or perceived as sexual. Importantly, stimulation doesnât even have to be tactile and there is definitely no rule which says that female genitals have to be touched at all for an orgasm to take place. âWomen on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Womenâs Sexual Fantasiesâ – Nancy Fridayâs follow-up book to her ground-breaking book on female sexual fantasies âThe Secret Gardenâ – gives numerous descriptions of women who achieved orgasm by simply fantasizing in the shower or having their nipples caressed. No penetration of any kind was involved. Now, that would be pretty much guaranteed to blow Freudâs mind if he ever heard about it. Heâd probably swiftly proceed to come up with elaborate schemes about how, for example, too much education resulted in the transfer of sexuality to the brain instead of the vagina or how a perverted breast-feeding relationship with a mother could have been the cause of nipple stimulation leading women to orgasm. In fact, in his essay âThe Psychology of Womenâ Freud actually did formulate his cure to nearly all manner of female sexual âneurosesâ – the âabandonment of the life of the mindâ. In Freudâs opinion, women simply couldnât handle having their brains and vaginas functioning properly at the same time. It was an âeither, orâ as far as Sigmund was concerned (now, maybe itâs just me, but I really think this guy seriously underestimated half the human speciesâŚ).
Freud never cared much about what women themselves had to say about their sexuality. He pretty much had his mind made up before he even got started on âstudyingâ the issue. Mind you, there wasnât any particularly useful studying to do, unless you were willing to do some actual high quality primary research with real women, which Freud wasnât. He just listened to a few âexpertsâ and added some of his own wisdom. Importantly, back in those days, experts were all men who, similarly to Freud, did not think women could contribute to the scientific knowledge base, even if they were the object of study. These male experts reasoned that. being the superior sex, they could surely draw their own conclusions which would by definition be more insightful than anything a woman could tell them about her âprivate partsâ (also, it would spare them the embarrassment and possible accusation of indecent behavior which would have surely cropped up once word of investigations with real women would have spread).
It perhaps doesnât take much feminist deconstructing to come to the conclusion that male doctorsâ doctrines about sex had a lot to do with male expectations and experiences of sex. Men generally thought that penetrating a vagina provided for a jolly good time, so surely women must really like it too. And if they donât, then, by golly, there must have been something wrong with them. Iâll admit â this is a bit of an oversimplification of doctorsâ discourse on female sexuality prior to the 70s. But just a bit⌠All manner of medical professionals (psychiatrists, family doctors and gynecologists to name the most prominently involved) firmly believed that favoring clitoral stimulation makes a women âsexually inferiorâ because she doesnât need a penis to have a good time. The logic was that a penis made a women complete â thatâs what the cavity of the vagina is for, right? So if a woman doesnât want to be âcompleteâ, sheâs surely demented in one way or another.
Thankfully, we moved past these assumptions since then, but there is still a lot of negative over-thinking going into female sexuality. As the amazing sex-educator Heather Corinna points out, âever hear someone talk about a penis orgasm?â No? Thatâs because male sexuality is accepted as more natural, almost simpler in a way â men want sex. What more is there to analyze/think/talk about? Women, on the other handâŚahâŚnow thatâs more complexâŚthey want sex but they donât, theyâre maternal and not sexual, they have different orgasms in different places and itâs all oh so complicated. Iâm not saying we shouldnât study female sexuality â far from it! But we should definitely step back and let individual people enjoy their sex lives without worrying that they have inferior orgasms or thereâs something wrong with them because they guy who invented psychoanalysis said soâŚ


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